Vision isn't "one size fits all." It's a custom fit.

Once upon a time, a leader decided his family needed the best of what he had to offer, which he assumed was his leadership. And leadership equals vision, right?

Because he'd been raised in a home with a passion for reading, he had a similar vision for his family: "We are a group that honors God by being people of the Word and of words." Sort of catchy, he thought. He envisioned evenings spent reading and telling stories—expanding the mind, enthralling the children and their guests.

The dream shaped the home atmosphere and family budget. Bookshelves lined bedrooms.

For a while, the vision fit. Child 1 loved to read, listened carefully to stories, and developed a knack for telling stories with great detail.

But Child 2 complicated the picture. Child 2 didn't have Child 1's interest in books. Child 2 was a natural athlete, developed into an outstanding gymnast, and while tolerating the reading-and-story culture, wasn't inclined to be literary. ...