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DANCING WITH DEFEAT

Everyone stumbles. The graceful regain their balance.

Everyone stumbles. The graceful regain their balance.

I heard it through the grapevine: twenty-three members, pained at the changes I had made during my first days at The Chapel, had secretly met to pool their frustrations.

I immediately called the de facto leader and asked for a meeting. He said he had a list of what the group had prayed (and complained) about.

"Let's get all the concerned people together," I suggested. He agreed but wanted to meet with the trustees, not me. I contended the grievances were with me, rehearsed the clear guidelines of Matthew 18:15-17, and we agreed to convene.

I also invited all the trustees and other leaders. We scheduled the meeting in the Fellowship Hall, and as I stepped in I was hoping it would live up to its name. But frankly, it already felt like a no-win, no-way situation.

The group fired away. I listened to their criticism-some fair, some unfair (from my vantage of total objectivity!). Some of the complaints related to music, others to the way I closed ...

January/February
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