One of my favorite films of all time is The Family Way, a comic drama from the mid-1960s about a newlywed couple from the north of England whose honeymoon plans fall through and who struggle with the fact that, a few months after the wedding, their marriage remains unconsummated, possibly because they are compelled by economic necessity to live with the husband's parents. In one scene, the husband and wife go for a stroll through the town, where they are increasingly turned off by various public displays of affection as well as the nudge-nudge nods to sex that they see in the storefront-window advertisements. When they finally have a moment to themselves, the husband, frustrated by his impotence, reminds his wife of a time when they almost did have sex, before they were married; perhaps, he says, they should have done it then, just to break the ice, and she replies that, if she had lost her virginity then, she would not have been able to wear white at their wedding.

Jude Law plays a womanizing British playboy in the role of Alfie

Jude Law plays a womanizing British playboy in the role of Alfie

So, what's that have to do with Alfie? Two things. First, The Family Way was based on a play by Bill Naughton, who also wrote the original stage and screen versions of Alfie, also back in the mid-1960s. Second, because it helps to put the original Alfie into its original context, at a time when the so-called sexual liberation was just beginning to go mainstream, even as traditional morals, gender roles and social customs continued to hold sway. The 1966 Alfie may have embodied, to some degree, the time and place known as "Swinging London," but it also took place at a time when abortion was illegal and pregnant single women had to pretend to be married when they checked into the maternity ward. And Alfie himself, as played by Michael Caine, was not so much a charmer as he was a cold-blooded ladykiller who consistently referred to women as "it," not "she," and who flirted happily with nurses and laundrywomen on their professional turf while thinking nothing of turning other women into his own domestic slaves back home. But for all the attention his sexual exploits have received, Caine's Alfie was marked by an even deeper restlessness, marked by insomnia and a profound awareness of his own mortality.

Needless to say, all that existential angst is somewhat muted in the current remake, which moves the title character to New York, gives him more feeling, and surrounds him with women who have a little more backbone. The new film, co-written and directed by Charles Shyer (who has specialized lately in remakes of warmer, fuzzier fare like Father of the Bride and The Parent Trap), with co-writer and Seinfeld veteran Elaine Pope giving the script a more feminine touch, also plays up the sensuality and hedonism of Alfie's exploits in a way that the earlier film never quite did. In one early scene, Alfie (Jude Law, exhibiting the dashing charm that was mysteriously missing from Sky Captain and the World of Tomorrow) has an encounter with a married woman (Jane Krakowski) in the back of the limo he drives, at the end of which he turns to the audience, says he is about to give his conquest some "obligatory cuddling," and then proceeds to count quietly to three. All at once, it becomes clear: this is a kinder, gentler, funnier Alfie for the post-When Harry Met Sally age.

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Nikki (Sienna Miller) and Alfie (Jude Law) dance the night away

Nikki (Sienna Miller) and Alfie (Jude Law) dance the night away

The lad is still a cad, though. After dropping off his passenger, Alfie drops in on a single mom (Marisa Tomei) who is sort of his quasi-regular girlfriend, though he shows up on this occasion not for sex or companionship but for her cooking. She quickly dumps him, though, when she finds that he threw another woman's underwear away in her garbage bin. This is soon followed by an unplanned late-night pool-table tryst with Lonette (Nia Long), a bartender who just broke up with Alfie's best friend Marlon (Omar Epps). No sooner does Alfie regret having come between these two people than they are reunited, thus allowing Alfie to tell himself he did the couple a favor. But then matters are complicated when Lonette discovers she is pregnant. To keep her fling with Alfie a secret, she and Alfie decide to terminate the pregnancy, lest the baby have any non-African-American features.

The original film turned the abortion of Alfie's child into a traumatic, existential climax, in which the supposedly carefree playboy found himself moved to prayer, however perfunctory it may have been, and brooding over the fact that he had "murdered" his own child. The new film softens these edges, partly by moving the sequence to a much earlier point in the story, where its impact is cushioned by the events that follow, and partly by toning down the dialogue around this moment, so that Lonette will only say that she feels "empty," while Alfie tells the audience how he regrets that he will never get to know his own child. This is not to say that the film in any way condones abortion—indeed, one could argue it goes the other route—but it does reflect a more permissive shift in social attitudes.

Marisa Tomei plays the role of Julie

Marisa Tomei plays the role of Julie

One other thing that has changed in the past 40 years is the frankness with which films refer to the male sex organs. The new film's opening montage includes a tight close-up on the crotch of a Fleischer-era Superman model in Alfie's apartment—thus underscoring both Alfie's boyish irresponsibility (he declares he has never, ever made his own bed) as well as the fact that he is driven by his lusts. And there are numerous other references to our protagonist's male anatomy besides, particularly during a subplot in which Alfie temporarily loses the ability to perform in bed. What's more, as Alfie waits at the doctor's office for his test results, he meets an older man named Joe (Dick Latessa) in the washroom, who apologizes for how long he must stand at the urinal before his business there is finished.

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This, too, leads to a telling example of how the new film has made Alfie a nicer character, intensified our focus on his sexuality, and played down his non-sexual anxieties. In the original film, Alfie's health problems were in his lungs, and although he did befriend an older man at a sanitorium, he needled the man with morbid thoughts of death and cynical speculations about that man's wife and children before ultimately seducing the man's wife herself. This time, however, Alfie looks up to Joe and turns to him for advice when his love life takes a bad turn and all his other friends seem to have abandoned him.

Changes like these are not necessarily a bad thing. Indeed, to tell the original story all over again in the exact same form in the current cultural context would not make much sense, and if the new film seems a bit shallower than the original—well, these are shallower times. Marriage, religion, and the other traditions against which the older Alfie rebelled are not as established as they once were, and to some degree they have joined the ranks of acceptable options in a smorgasbord culture that takes everything in its stride; one line in the new film even hints at the increasing social acceptability of same-sex marriages.

Alfie (Jude Law) finds there are consequences to his loose living

Alfie (Jude Law) finds there are consequences to his loose living

In this day and age, it may be enough that a film draws our attention to the emotional pain that is caused, both to oneself and to others, by selfish lifestyles. Granted, there is something a little odd about hearing this lesson in a film that gives us scenes like the one where one character tells our titular lothario, "You never mean to hurt anybody, but you do, Alfie," and then the soundtrack goes to a brand new song by Dave Stewart and Mick Jagger, the latter of whom once embodied London at its swingiest, and whose sexual escapades have famously caused no small amount of pain in their own right. Perhaps the new film does go out of its way to create sympathy for its devil, but as Mick sings over the closing credits, "Old habits die hard," and if any impressionable young minds were to leave this film vowing not to form certain habits in the first place, then that would not be a bad thing.

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Talk About It

Discussion starters
  1. In one scene, Alfie has been thinking about God and death, but doesn't have to worry about "partying with Lucifer" right now because his test results came back negative. Is his reaction realistic? How would you react if you had a brush with illness or possibly death? When should Alfie start worrying about his eternal fate?

  2. What does the film say about abortion? Is it pro-choice or pro-life? Comparing the two versions of this film, which would have a bigger impact on a person like Alfie—witnessing an aborted fetus, or witnessing a live baby?

  3. What do you think the film says about promiscuity? Does it support it or not? If some scenes encourage the audience to laugh at Alfie's sexual prowess, does that mean they also encourage us to accept it? Do the more serious, or even tragic, elements later in the film outweigh the funny elements that we see at the very beginning?

The Family Corner

For parents to consider

Alfie is rated R for sexual content, some language and drug use. The film is all about the highs and lows of the sex life of a man who sleeps with numerous women, including references to abortion and erectile dysfunction. There are also scenes of marijuana and absinthe consumption.

What Other Critics Are Saying
compiled by Jeffrey Overstreet
from Film Forum, 11/11/04

Alfie gets an update

Michael Caine became a star largely due to his performance as a young libertine named Alfie, but based on the reviews, it looks like Jude Law may have outdone him in the role. The new Alfie, directed by Charles Shyer, gives the story a contemporary spin, in America instead of England. Alfie's still a womanizer, still looking for an answer to the big question: "What does it all mean?" And he's still learning the hard way that sleeping around is not a shortcut to any lasting satisfaction.

Peter T. Chattaway (Christianity Today Movies) calls it "a kinder, gentler, funnier Alfie for the post-When Harry Met Sally age." He concludes, "In this day and age, it may be enough that a film draws our attention to the emotional pain that is caused, both to oneself and to others, by selfish lifestyles. Perhaps the new film does go out of its way to create sympathy for its devil, but … if any impressionable young minds were to leave this film vowing not to form certain habits in the first place, then that would not be a bad thing."

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Michael Elliott (Movie Parables) asks, "If Alfie is indeed questioning himself and his behavior, why doesn't he clue in to the fact that he's on such a dead-end path? Instead of seeing him as a selfish, insensitive, or immoral, we simply view him as being rather foolish. The film closes with a question which echoes the original film—'What's it all about?' By the time the closing credits arrive, Alfie has come to the realization that his life amounts to absolutely nothing."

Cliff Vaughn (Ethics Daily) says, "One keeps expecting Alfie to change after a couple of incidents threaten his way of life, but he never really makes the leap, which is one of the movie's disappointments. The filmmakers try to tack on some Ecclesiastical meanderings near film's end, but they ring about as true as one of Alfie's promises to a lover."

Annabelle Robertson (Crosswalk) says, "Alfie is a movie that most Christians will probably never see, and that is definitely the right decision. But for a few … this film may well serve as a well-needed wake-up call. That Alfie is confronted with the vacuity of his actions, without the quick-fix Hollywood panacea of 'the perfect relationship,' is truly astounding, and deserves a commendation. Surprisingly, in the midst of so much smut, we see a Christian message."

Christopher Lyon (Plugged In) writes, "The real shock here is that the filmmakers work so hard to uncover the destructive, soul-killing consequences of sexual 'freedom.' Men who sleep with women for pleasure with no intention of a loving commitment … hurt those women. And they hurt themselves. Everybody loses. Did Alfie need to pile on the sex and drugs in order to deliver that message? Nope. And those who already agree with it don't need to see the film to be swayed toward a 'love, marriage and responsibility' point of view. But hopefully the Alfies of the world (and there are millions of them) will come away with an uncomfortable burr under the saddle of their pleasure-centered approach to life."

Harry Forbes (Catholic News Service) says, "Many will ask how anyone could dare remake the famous 1966 British film which, more than any other, put Michael Caine so memorably on the map. But Charles Shyer's New York-set Alfie … works just as well on its own terms, capped by a superb performance by Jude Law in the title role. The emptiness of [Alfie's] hedonistic lifestyle is beautifully conveyed as the story progresses. The result is a cautionary tale of the first order."

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In her comparison of the old and new Alfie films, Elisabeth Leitch (Hollywood Jesus) says the new one has a lot to offer. "While Alfie's question, 'What's it all about?' still hangs in the air at the end of the movie, the answer seems to lie in the love he has seen in others' lives and the love he feels like he is missing."

Mainstream critics are praising Law, but most of them are disappointed in the film itself.

Our Rating
3 Stars - Good
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Mpaa Rating
R (for sexual content, and some language and drug use)
Directed By
Charles Shyer
Run Time
1 hour 43 minutes
Jude Law, Sienna Miller, Susan Sarandon
Theatre Release
November 05, 2004 by Paramount Pictures
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