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Why Your Church Needs Group Mentoring

How the group model grows stronger and more mature leaders.

Leadership Journal October 8, 2014

In this series: Helping People Grow in Maturity

Natasha Sistrunk Robinson knows a thing or two about how leaders are made—and she believes we're missing out if we focus our efforts on one-on-one mentoring. Since graduating from the Naval Academy, she has served as an officer in the United States Marine Corps, worked in the Department of Homeland Security, earned her Master of Arts in Christian Leadership from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, and founded the women's mentoring ministry at Cornerstone Baptist Church in Greensboro, North Carolina. Robinson spoke with BuildingChurchLeaders.com managing editor Laura Leonard about her vision for leadership development, her theological framework for mentoring, and the benefits of mentoring in a small group setting.

How did you end up starting a mentoring ministry?

I was mentored by a woman in college. I went to the Naval Academy, where mentoring is a built-in component of leadership. There was an expectation for the sophomores to mentor freshmen, the juniors to mentor the sophomores and freshmen, and so on. As I was being mentored, I was also connecting with other young Christian women who were either new to the faith or didn't have a faith community. When I did a Bible study with a woman who was discipling me, she would often give me her notes and we would review them in the time that we spent together, and then I would take those notes and do the same study with the girls who lived in my dormitory. That's what started it all.

Then, a few years ago, I was leading the women's small groups in my church. I saw that women were thirsty. They wanted more from God and more from the church. They didn't mind being challenged. That was the foundation of the mentoring ministry.

In your military background mentoring relationships were so intentional. What could the church learn from that model?

The military is its own culture. We have our own language, our own attire, our own rules and regulations—it's something people who aren't in the military could never understand. In the church, too, there should be a certain way that we live as people of God, and people who have never been in it should think, Whoa, what is that? I don't really understand it. This whole idea of community and dwelling with people is a passion, desire, and understanding that I've carried over into the church. I have a prophetic conviction that we can do better.

Mentoring is an essential part of leadership. In other words, you can't call yourself a leader if you're not raising up leaders. That's what leaders do in the military, because eventually somebody has to get promoted. It's not a question of whether they're going to leave; it's a matter of when. And it needs to become a natural part of what we expect from Christian leaders and a church. For whatever reason, I don't see enough people being trained and raised up to lead. At best we ask them to volunteer for a ministry, or to serve at certain events, and we may give them a one-time training, or a few weeks of classes, and then we let them go. There is no long-term teaching and training so that leaders can grow in maturity and have the accountability necessary to develop the character of a leader.

How can churches prepare both mentors and mentees for a good mentoring relationship?

I look at mentoring as intentionally making disciples—mentoring for God's kingdom purposes. So the mentor has to have a theological framework for mentoring. And I believe that most Christians don't. Ask them, "What does it mean to be a disciple of Christ?" Then, "What does it look like to make a disciple of Christ?" And of course the nail on the coffin is, "Are you doing it?" But even before we get to that last question, most lay people don't have adequate responses.

What does this theological framework look like? Why group mentoring over one-on-one?

There can be extreme value in one-on-one mentoring relationships. I've experienced it in my own life. More importantly, I see it in the Bible. But in the Bible when there is a one-on-one mentoring relationship, it is by divine appointment and for a divine purpose. Let's look at a few of our examples: Moses and Joshua, Elijah and Elisha, Paul and Timothy, Paul and Titus. God had a very particular purpose for those relationships. Moses was laying the foundation so that Joshua could be the leader to the next generation, to take them into the Promised Land. Elisha was going to carry the prophetic mantel of Elijah. In addition to teaching Timothy and Titus how to plant churches, Paul was teaching them how to be good Christian leaders. One-on-one mentoring relationships are important, and they will happen organically once God makes it clear that's what you're supposed to do, and he'll have a very specific purpose for those relationships. I would not advocate that a third-party try to randomly put two people together and hope that's going to be a divine appointment.

I follow the small group model for two reasons. First, I see it in the Bible, specifically in Jesus with the 12 disciples. He discipled them, taught them, trained them, mentored them in the context of a group. He spent most of his time with the 12, and he spent even more time with the three. There are very few conversations recorded in the Gospels between Jesus and one disciple. Not to say he didn't have them; he did. But the Gospel writers consistently show him teaching them, correcting them, and leading them as a group.

Then he sends them out two-by-two, never alone. This adds a dynamic of peer-to-peer mentoring. Jesus sent them out two-by-two in case something went down. In the military we call that the buddy system. When you deploy on a ship and you get to a duty station or port in another country, you don't go anywhere alone; you go with a buddy. In a mentoring small group, your learning is going to be enhanced because you're not just hearing the philosophy of one person, rather you are drawing near to God by sharing in the diverse experiences of the group.

What are some of the things that sabotage a mentoring relationship? How do you prepare people to avoid them?

Two come to mind right away. One is not setting clear expectations and boundaries up front. For a mentoring relationship to work there has to be a mutual commitment. If the mentor is the only one invested, they will get very frustrated when the mentee is not interested. Likewise, if the mentee comes with lots of uncommunicated or unrealistic expectations that the mentor fails to meet, that's a recipe for disaster.

The other is if the mentor is not what Peter Scazzero refers to as emotionally and spiritually healthy. An unhealthy mentor may be able to mask or cover up their emotional issues for a while, but once they get into an intimate relationship like mentoring, their issues spill out. Say for example, the mentor is in a bad marriage, and frustrations with their own marriage are projected onto the younger mentee. The mentee may be single, and as a result of this negative experience, she may draw unhealthy conclusions about men or marriage. Maybe the mentee has a good marriage, but suddenly she begins taking up offenses for her mentor. Now she's mad with her own husband for something he didn't even do! This is a problem and a natural occurrence when people are allowed to volunteer for leading others without first having the proper screening and training. If we take the time to cultivate relationships and train potential leaders, we are more likely to notice red flags and get them help before launching them to lead others. It is okay to go to a potential mentor and say, "I love you, but you're not quite ready for this. Let's get you into marriage counseling and then we'll see how God works his healing in your life." This whole idea that we've got going in the church—volunteer and we'll just let you do it—has got to stop. It's detrimental.

So accountability needs to be part of ongoing training?

Absolutely. When I started the mentoring ministry, my ministry partner and I trained the potential mentors every other week for six months before sending them to mentor others. Once they got started with their mentoring groups, we continued to meet as a leadership team once a month for intercession, soul care, sharing, fellowship, question and answers, and discussing best practices. Why did we do that? We did it because it is a wise and encouraging practice. For long-term commitments, training has to be ongoing.

What is your vision for small group mentoring in the church?

From the very beginning, God said it is not good for a man to be alone. Yet I have observed that we have a lot of people suffering in silence in the church. People who are supposed to be redeemed are living as fallen. People who are supposed to be walking in freedom are living as slaves to the world. We can do better at making disciples. When we mentor people and intentionally make disciples in this way, we also create safe places for people to learn and grow, to love and be loved well. As those people become mature, they go to share and do for someone else what has already been done for and shared with them. This is God's work of grace, and these are the communities we need to see in a church.

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You Can Now Hold 1,000 Bible Translations in the Palm of Your Hand

YouVersion and 150 partners celebrate milestone, yet 80 percent of world’s languages still missing.

Christianity Today October 7, 2014
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Today 7 out of 10 of the world's inhabitants can read the Bible in their own language on a digital device, thanks to partnerships between YouVersion and more than 150 Bible publishers and translation agencies.

The YouVersion Bible App, downloaded more than 150 million times, now offers 1,000 translations of the Bible. And Spanish is far from the second-most used language after English.

YouVersion broke the quadruple-digit threshold after Wycliffe Bible Translators provided access to its Bible translation for about 5,000 Hdi speakers, who predominantly reside in the mountains of Cameroon and in parts of neighboring Nigeria. Other rare languages reached through YouVersion’s app include Huilliche (2,000 speakers in Chile), Samoan (1,140 speakers in Fiji), and Ama (480 speakers in Papua New Guinea).

"It's unprecedented in history having so many Bible versions in the palm of your hand—something we never imagined was possible even a few years ago," said YouVersion's Bobby Gruenewald in a statement. "This milestone wouldn't be possible if not for the Bible translators and the more than 150 publishers, Bible societies, and organizations that have collaborated with YouVersion."

Despite now reaching 87 percent of the world's Christians with internet access (according to YouVersion), the accomplishment still represents less than 20 percent of the world’s 6,901 languages. Of these, 2,192 languages have a Bible translation in progress, and 1,872 languages do not have any translation in progress, according to YouVersion.

After English, the YouVersion language with the second-most installations worldwide is Portuguese, which almost doubles the installations of Korean (the No. 3 language) and almost triples the installations of Spanish (No. 4). Chinese is the No. 5 installed language.

Previously, YouVersion has revealed its top 10 most-shared Bible verses (not John 3:16), and CT compared the findings to lists compiled by Bible Gateway and the the King James Bible Online.

CT has spotlighted YouVersion's volunteer army, profiled its rise among other "social network gospels," and offers a Who's Next profile on founder Bobby Gruenewald. CT's March cover story explored how the world of new Bible coders will change how you think about Scripture.

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Fit to Print

Announcing a cutting-edge redesign of Leadership Journal.

Leadership Journal October 7, 2014

Print as a medium is a special privilege to work with. The beauty and meaning possible in designing a physical magazine isn't something that an editor can take for granted any more, and the possibilities for creativity and communication are so rich when making something to be held, handled, and read. I love the Internet, but isn't there something timeless about paper and ink?

With that love of physical print, we at Leadership Journal are very proud to announce a major redesign of our iconic journal. Our print edition has a new look, new size, fresh new departments, and a depth of modern design that matches our seasoned, benchmark content.

To get here, we've talked with hundreds of pastors around the U.S., consulted with the innovative Atlanta design firm Metaleap Creative, and spent countless hours discussing changes in-house. The work has been worth it, and you'll see it in the October issue, mailing now.

So come on, and subscribe today via this exclusive offer for some quality print in your life! We're making it better than ever. The craft is worth it. You're worth it. The message and the medium? Worth it.

-Paul

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Eugene Cho Leads the Quest for a Reconciled Church

The Seattle pastor believes Asian Americans need to speak out about race in America.

Paul Kim Photography

This summer, Eugene Cho, lead pastor of Quest Church in Seattle, was enjoying a sabbatical from active ministry and blogging—until events in Ferguson, Missouri, caught his attention. “I kept envisioning Michael Brown’s body, lying on the ground, completely exposed for hours,” Cho says. “Then seeing the anger and frustration of people protesting and the responses to the protests, I felt it was . . . a necessity to respond.”

So Cho sat down to write a heavy-hearted blog post: “Please don’t ignore it. Five ways that Christians and churches must engage Michael Brown’s death.” Cho is one of a number of Asian American leaders who consistently challenge the church to pursue racial reconciliation. “I don’t want a conversation about racism to be black and white,” he says. “It’s important for Asian Americans to speak on matters of race, as people who have been both perpetrators and victims. The church is called to speak out about justice, and not only when it involves our own kind.”

Ever since Cho planted Quest in 2001, the church has brought issues of race to the forefront in ways many of its congregants had never experienced. Bo Lim, professor of Old Testament at Seattle Pacific University (SPU), remembers a service early on in which Cho preached about the struggles of being an ethnic minority. “I found myself weeping. My wife was weeping. I looked around the room and saw many others weeping,” says Lim. “Quest helped me understand the gift of my ethnic background.”

Read an interview with Cho about his new book, Overrated: Are We More in Love with the Idea of Changing the World Than Actually Changing the World? (David C. Cook).

And Quest starts naming that gift early. Its children’s ministry, Global Village, is decorated with images of children from every tribe, tongue, and nation. A bookshelf features books with titles such as The Skin You Live In, Shades of People, and All Kinds of Children. “Our library includes books you wouldn’t see in 99 percent of churches,” Cho says.

But Quest has gone beyond simply affirming all racial and ethnic backgrounds. For the past 10 years, the church has hosted an annual “Faith and Race” class for 4 to 6 weeks, open to non-Quest attendees. Billy Vo, director of the Asian American Ministry program at SPU, still remembers attending as a seminary student. “We talked about stereotypes, white privilege, and the idea of race as a social construct. I appreciated this, since these weren’t concepts I engaged in any substantial way in other churches or in seminary. Quest was the first Asian American–led church I’m aware of that made race matter.”

Doing this type of reconciliatory work, however, is no easy task. “We have messy conversations,” says Quest executive pastor Gail Song Bantum. “Our expectation is not that people have arrived in this area, but we create spaces to allow us to journey together, to hear others’ stories. Knowing someone’s stories is what breaks down barriers to reconciliation.”

Ultimately, this is what drives Cho, Bantum, associate pastor Brenda Salter McNeil, and other Quest leaders to embrace the ministry of reconciliation, and to engage with national events such as Brown’s shooting death. “The integrity of the church is at stake. When it’s all said and done, it’s not a race issue for me; it’s a gospel issue,” Cho says. “The gospel is so extraordinary that it begins to inform and, we pray, transform all aspects of our lives. We talk about race and racism because we believe in the gospel.”

Why Hong Kong Matters: More Than Politics at Stake

Chinese control threatens the freedom, dignity, and happiness of millions.

Her.meneutics October 7, 2014
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When we lived in Shenzhen, an industrial megacity in mainland China, my husband and I would occasionally visit Hong Kong on the weekends. Entering the former British colony was always a shock to my system. Unlike Shenzhen, Hong Kong was full of signs in English and people speaking Cantonese, the dialect of my childhood. All around were foreigners, British-style double-decker buses, and plenty of familiar brands and stores.

But what captivated me most about Hong Kong was its people. Physically, they looked similar to the professional classes on Shenzhen—same hair styles, petite frames, wardrobe choices. But their faces were completely different. When Hong Kongers talked, their faces became much more animated. When they smiled, you could see their teeth. Sometimes I would just observe people as I wandered down the crowded, narrow streets. And as I watched, I felt the heaviness of mainland China begin to lift. In Hong Kong, the spirits of the people were alive.

For the past two weeks, those narrow streets of Hong Kong have been teeming with crowds of a different sort: students and professionals, workers and activists, all protesting the recent proclamation that Hong Kong’s next top leader would be elected from a slate of Beijing-approved candidates. The protesters see this as an underhanded strategy of the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) to gain greater control over the Westernized territory.

When the United Kingdom returned Hong Kong to the People’s Republic of China in 1997, the conditions of the handover were clear: Hong Kong would retain its current way of life—including all its freedoms, civil society, economic and political systems—for 50 years.

Unfortunately, this isn’t the first time the CCP has attempted to encroach upon the autonomy they had promised. Since the handover, journalists in Hong Kong have been censored; publishers have been harassed; activists have been closely monitored and intimidated. A couple years ago, Chinese authorities proposed incorporating “patriotic education” into Hong Kong schools, until successful student protests forced them to backtrack.

In recent years, the headlines we’ve seen from mainland China have been primarily about the country’s explosive economic growth, one that has raised an astonishing 600 million people out of poverty since 1981. When I lived in Shenzhen, I experienced a society that had everything—and nothing. The gleaming malls were brimming with the latest fashions; the highways were packed with cars; the city buzzed with karaoke bars, massage parlors, and nightclubs. Rural migrants flowed in from every corner of the country looking for jobs, while educated professionals earned salaries their parents could only dream of. But everywhere I looked, I saw emptiness.

Since the brutal suppression of the Tiananmen Square protests of 1989, there have been only two state-sanctioned forms of expression allowed in China: hyper-nationalism, to the point of rampant xenophobia, and the headlong pursuit of wealth. The harsh punishments meted out to those who dare oppose or even question the CCP—executions, imprisonment and torture, years-long intimidation campaigns, constant surveillance—have deterred many in China from standing up for themselves. They have, understandably, chosen the safer route, which has cultivated a society obsessed with all things self: self-image, self-sufficiency, self-provision, self-protection, self-preservation. Any experiences of community, empathy, trust, and morality have been driven underground.

As a result, the day-to-day existence of the modern urban Chinese is one of constant battle: fighting for a place in line, jostling to get on the subway, competing for a better job, struggling just to be noticed and valued as an individual in a highly conformist society.

In Shenzhen, many of the Chinese Nationals I met were doing very well economically, but they were dogged by feelings of loneliness, confusion, depression, and the nagging sense that their lives had no meaning. They were among the saddest individuals I have encountered in any part of the world, a people broken, hurting, and insecure. They had no voice, no sense of self-worth, no higher purpose, and no hope. Their lives had become only about survival—economically, politically, and socially—which is really no life at all.

The current debate in Hong Kong over who gets to select the candidates for chief executive may seem like a triviality, but it’s not. The protesters correctly see the slippery slope Beijing wants to nudge them down. It’s not about politics; it’s about the empowerment and dignity of 7.2 million people. It’s about the right to think for oneself and laugh freely; to speak truth and pursue treasures worth far more than the riches of this world; to believe in God and the goodness of others.

After less than two years, I left Shenzhen because living in such a miserable place had broken me too. Even with my own firm conviction that Jesus was with me in every daily battle, I did not have enough resilience to stand in a society that is all about keeping people down. It was only after we moved to Hong Kong that I learned how to laugh and trust others again. Only there, in a city where debate is welcome, where kindnesses are regularly extended to strangers, where the power of choice exists, could I remember that life is about so much more than survival.

Nobody knows what will happen in 2047, when the 50-year agreement to preserve Hong Kong’s civil liberties ends. But for now, we have the Hong Kong of today. So each day during these protests I pray earnestly for the people of Hong Kong, for courage and perseverance. I pray that God will change the hearts of the Communist leaders. I pray that, together, they will find a peaceful way forward to preserve the freedom and dignity that defines Hong Kong, and I pray that our brothers and sisters in mainland China may one day be able to experience that too.

Dorcas Cheng-Tozun is a writer, blogger, and editor who has found healing and hope through words. Previously she worked as a nonprofit and social enterprise professional in the U.S. and Asia, living in mainland China and Hong Kong from 2008 to 2011. She currently lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and adorable hapa son. You can find her online at www.chengtozun.com or on Twitter @dorcas_ct.

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Some Final Notes on ‘Left Behind’

Columnist; Contributor

Responding to some of the responses, and drawing lines in the sand.

Nicky Whelan and Nicolas Cage in 'Left Behind'

Nicky Whelan and Nicolas Cage in 'Left Behind'

Christianity Today October 6, 2014

Last week we published our review of Left Behind, written (contrary to some assertions) by one of our regular critics. It took the film, and its source material, to task for a few things: not being at all entertaining, being outright offensive in its portrayal of a number of characters both Christian and not, and pursuing the minimum “Christian” content to be marketed at Christians while not embodying or exploring any particularly Christian traits or concerns.

So I’d like to respond to some of these concerns, referring to Jack’s piece throughout.

I do know that one could argue that a film in which the Rapture occurs is embodying a Christian concern; unfortunately, the Rapture also occurred in the HBO show The Leftovers and that raunchy Judd Apatow movie This Is the End and a few other properties just in the last year, so that doesn't really hold water. Nor does the portrayal of a Christian character make it Christian.

The thing that makes a movie “Christian,” in today's movie climate, is that it either explores important questions rooted in and resonating with the Christian faith (I think of This is Martin Bonner, or Calvary, or Tree of Life, or any number of films), or it is made for the Christian “market” and will be primarily watched by that market, like God’s Not Dead. Or, sometimes, both.

Jack's argument is that in his view, the property does none of those things well, settling more to be a “Jesus juke” of other popular genres. They are, in other words, copies of things that already exist, with “Christian” stuff stapled on in order to make them more palatable to a particular market segment with money to spend. (As Jack notes in his two-paragraph note at the end of the review, he recognizes that the authors of the books were doing something a bit different, and that people may have found the books more meaningful or helpful than he did. He felt the books were a “shallow interpretation of an endlessly deep faith.” For the record, I agree, and have since I read them myself as a teenager.)

I'll confess that in publishing this review, I knew it was going to be a little like lobbing a grenade over a wall, given that the review is forceful in tone. Here is why I went with it: not only did I think Jack pinpointed what made me so uncomfortable with the property since I was a teenager, but he did it not as some kind of cynical outsider but as someone with a great deal of personal investment in the matter, and he also made it possible to say something out loud that I think is important.

I believe it is vital for Christians to recognize that they are a massive market segment who are only going to see themselves marketed toward more in the future. And I believe that it is important for Christians to realize that they can use that power to ask for better entertainment, things that actually do explore the deep, complex questions that have animated our faith for millennia. I think it's time for Christians to quit acting like victims and instead call a spade a spade when they see it.

And, most importantly for us, I think it is important to give audiences permission to feel morally outraged if they feel they've been had.

A few people have expressed concerns about Jack's admission that he started the film already expecting to hate it, because of his long-seated reaction to the books and their portrayal of Christians. Several have expressed concern that he was saying that he was hoping to hate the movie, and then he did, so what did he expect?

I understand the objection; no filmmaker wants to hear that someone walked into their film expecting to hate it, nor does any critic want to admit it, since we attempt to have no preconceived notions about a film before we see it.

The thing is, it's hard not to have preconceived notions about a movie, particularly when (a) it's based on a bazillion-dollar mega-property that virtually every American evangelical I know who grew up in the 1990s and 2000s read; (b) it's already been made into three movies, which means this is a reboot; (c) it stars an A-list actor who nonetheless has a rather rocky track record. The best you can do in that case is acknowledge your bias and then think, I hope this is better than I was expecting.

On occasion, I've found it useful to admit bias in my own reviews, when my bias was then contradicted by the film itself. For instance, in my review of Short Term 12, it's useful to say that I wasn't expecting much, since it so thoroughly routed my expectations. In that case, it was to my delight. Similarly, if I go see a movie with high hopes, and it’s awful, then I think it’s good for me to say that.

Jack's admission served a similar purpose, because he too found that his expectations were subverted. He expected one thing, and what he got was totally different and even worse. The argument boils down as follows: the source material, with which I am intimately familiar, portrayed my faith and what I knew of my fellow adherents in a way I found objectionable. So it was hard for me to believe I could like the film, if it was faithful to the book. But, somehow, and in a way I found unexpected, I hated it not for that reason, but because it did something even worse: it betrayed its own source material by barely even touching that material, while simultaneously marketing to Christians as if it they need to like it.

In other words, it's not the eschatology that is being taken to task here (whether you are an adherent or a dissident). It's not even the film's quality as a film, for the most part—something that it seems virtually every other outlet on the planet mentioned and didn't seem to need a lot of explanation here.

It's that the movie pulled a bait-and-switch on its audience, and it didn't even do it well.

I didn’t review the film, but it’s this that makes me really mad. I don't get passionately upset about movies much, but when I do, it's because it seems something unethical has happened. It's what I felt when I wrote my review of The Hunger Games last year; that is, you say this is about one thing, but then you turn around and do something else, all in pursuit of commercial gain. I think commercial gain is great, but I don't think that kind of dishonesty can be allowed to stand, whether the target audience is teenagers or Christians.

I particularly don't think it can be allowed to stand when it is offensive to the same audience who also comprise most of the readers of this magazine: sincere, faithful Christians who have been willing (again, not often in bad faith) to overlook some matters of quality when it meant they could see a movie that matched up with or outright portrayed their beliefs. In a number of cases, the lack of filmmaking quality has been because those movies are essentially low-budget indie films produced by church communities or groups of friends (Jack mentions Facing the Giants and Fireproof in that category); that's not a slight against them, just a recognition that these films would never have been the successes they often were if they weren't being made as “Christian films,” films for Christians, who very much want some films to call their own.

Of course, in some other cases, the lack of filmmaking quality, when it exists, is because not every filmmaker takes the time necessary for things like budgeting and fundraising and script revision and all that.

Finally, and this happens almost every time we publish a not-glowing review of a Christian film, I've seen some people object that we ought to basically calm down and try to support this film, and others, because it's hard to make a film, and this one is pretty close to a Hollywood blockbuster, and it's silly for us to criticize some films for being too preachy and then complaining when this one isn't Christian enough. So here are a few notes on that.

First, it is irresponsible for a critic to support this or any film because movies are hard to make and at least they tried. I do know that movies are hard to make. And they're expensive, and they take a lot of time. I get that.

But, the thing is that movies are also a time and money commitment for viewers, and they are letting something into their lives that wasn't there before. My job, any critic's job, isn't to tell a viewer that they should or should not actually watch the movie, but rather to give them some way to look at the movie before or after they see it and to get a sense of whether or not it is for them.

In this case, it was important for us to make it crystal clear that you are not a bad Christian or person if you go to see this movie and leave feeling like it was not a good movie, or, further, that you were offended by how it portrayed your faith. I've actually heard from people who saw it and felt the same, and the thing about a critical voice is it can help validate your opinion.

It was also important in this case to call a spade a spade, which is to say: you spent 15 million dollars on this movie and told us we should see it, and this is what happened? A bad copy of an already-shaky genre (the Hollywood blockbuster)? Why did this need to exist?

Behold an emperor, wearing no clothes.

(I want to note here, lest we be accused of “hating Christian movies” or the like, that just in the last month we reviewed three films also being marketed to Christians, at least one of which qualifies in every way as a “Christian film,” in a positive manner. The day after the Left Behind review ran, we ran a positive review of The Good Lie, which has some distinct faith themes, was being marketed to “faith-based audiences,” and boasts an A-list star in Reese Witherspoon. A week earlier, we reviewed Believe Me, a satire of Christian subculture made by Christian filmmakers; two weeks ago we ran something close to a glowing review of The Song, a retelling of the Song of Solomon. I could go on.)

So this is not a case in which some people with a good idea for a story got together to make a movie that a family might be able to enjoy together and overlook some of its failings; this is a conventional PG-13 Hollywood blockbuster (which is already kind of a terrible genre these days) about a disaster, a reboot of a movie that had already been made with a B-list star, and it had a $15 million budget, and it portrayed its own target audience as sort of simplistic weirdos, and to add insult to injury, it's just not good.

I know filmmakers of faith, or who are exploring faith, who are also passionately committed to both their faith and to great filmmaking. They are studying, apprenticing, and learning, and approaching their craft – aesthetics, writing, acting, directing, all of it – with love for the movie world and for their viewer. But for some of them, their movies are simply not even getting seen, because on the one hand they don't have the A-list star and the big budget, and on the other they don't have the viral marketing engine behind them, often because their movies aren't explicitly evangelistic. I'm trying hard to locate these filmmakers and see their stuff, and then to write about it when I can. (By the way, if that's you, please get in touch.)

You're free to disagree, of course; maybe you saw it and liked it, or don't think that it merited the serious thrashing we gave it. For Jack, though, and for me too, it was a matter of conscience: we couldn't see this happening and not respond forcefully, especially given the platform.

As critics, we have to be committed to being writers of integrity, and that involves calling out when we see something that we think needs calling out. It involves getting upset on behalf of the wronged and making a passionate case to readers that it’s worth demanding something better. And Left Behind, I firmly believe, needed to be called out.

(By the way, in an article published just now over at The Atlantic, the wildly successful Christian rapper Lecrae made this statement: "The exploitation of believers just to turn a profit—so you care less about making a quality product, you just want to keep telling the same stories and repackaging them over and over just to exploit people—I have a problem with that.")

Hot-N-Ready and Made With Love

Dinner’s about the act of serving, not what’s being served.

Her.meneutics October 6, 2014
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With the push for healthy food, the restrictions of rising food allergies, and their hectic schedules, many women find cooking a meal at the end of the day to be a burden that is simply too much to bear, so says Amanda Marcotte writing for Slate. No wonder we have such a love-hate relationship with our kitchens.

In her article, “The Tyranny of the Home-Cooked Family Meal,” she concluded that it may be time for our home-cooked dinners to come to an end. If cooking is a burden for everyone (women especially), and most of the family would rather eat out anyway, why not just go for takeout? Some responded that Marcotte has missed the point entirely and that a family meal actually has important things to offer our society.

Studies show that a meal shared around a table, especially a home-cooked one, does much for our families and our society. It can help curb childhood obesity, thus preventing diabetes and other obesity-related illnesses. It can delay a child’s exposure to harmful influences like pornography and premarital sex. It can foster family relationships and help a child perform better in school. The family meal is a hallmark of a healthy culture. There is a wholesome Norman Rockwell-like image to sitting down and eating together.

But we need not throwback to a time before baking mixes and frozen dinners to feed our families. And as Christians, our decision to cook or call for a pizza doesn’t hinge on an appetite for nostalgia, but a desire to serve and love the people who sit around the table.

In my family of six, Mom would cook hotdogs and macaroni and cheese. She’d dish out leftovers. On special nights, she’d make one of the kids’ favorite meals. This was hardly gourmet. Some nights took more work than others, but it was consistent. Even then, part of me thought it was too labor-intensive, cooking every night.

I eventually came to love cooking—then came two babies that keep me too busy to play around with recipes or do anything too elaborate in the kitchen. The joy of cooking many days is nowhere to be found. Sometimes it’s homemade tacos—everyone’s favorite—and sometimes, it’s a Hot-N-Ready pizza.

As Marcotte argues, where the meal comes from doesn’t always matter. Regardless of how it arrives, I serve my family by putting food on the table. Providing food for our families isn’t about showing off with a Pinterest recipe or adding another task to our endless to-do lists. Instead, as Christians, when we see our labors as acts of service, the meal takes less focus and the people we are providing for becomes the primary focus.

It’s easy to view our efforts to feed those outside of our home as acts of service and see the feeding of those on the inside as just “what we do.” We even have a word for it—entertaining or hospitality. We extend such grace to honored guests, but our families are the first guests we ever receive. Cooking for our families is about gathering a community, fostering love and affection, and enjoying the gifts that God has given us.

A meal together is more about togetherness and service. It’s about feeding weary souls, meeting basic needs, and showing our kids that we are there for them. Even Jesus saw the importance of gathering for a meal with his disciples and friends, as it was a regular part of his ministry to others (Matt. 9:10, Matt. 14:13-21, Matt. 26:17-30, Luke 7:36-38, Luke 19:5, John 21:12). It was in these settings that his most intimate teaching was done and where his humility as our servant king was evidently seen.

A shared meal, an effort put forth, an inviting kitchen are all drawing us into community. As Jen Pollock Michel says in the recent Her.meneutics e-book Crave:

Our efforts matter for our families. If I didn’t prepare the traditional puffed apple pancake for Christmas breakfast, I’d have holiday mutiny on my hands. “But it’s Christmas!” What all that mouth-watering expectation points to is the importance of tradition. Traditions have a way of rooting us in a particular time and place; they birth in us a sense of belonging.

When we provide for our families through even the most basic meal we are telling them that they matter to us. We are telling them that their lives have value. We are telling them that we want them in our lives. At the end of the day our children may not remember what we made them to eat, but they will remember how we gave them what they ate.

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