An Extravagant Gratitude

Learn to give thanks in all circumstances.
An Extravagant Gratitude

Like many American kids, I loved Thanksgiving. But, like most of my peers, there was one thing I dreaded each year: The "everyone go around the table and say one thing they're thankful for" part before dinner.

On the one hand, my dread was sheerly utilitarian—there were massive quantities of delicious food just waiting to be consumed, and I'd already been waiting an eternity while the adults cooked, baked, and carved.

But the bigger fear was trying to figure out what I was really thankful for without it seeming trite or untrue, but also that it would be something really deep. I wanted to impress my family with the depth of my thanks and with the depth of my humility. Usually I would take a pious breath and talk about how thankful I was that the whole family could be together (which, I mean, was true), but I was mostly thankful my turn was over so I could get to shoveling food into my mouth.

As I've gotten older, I've become (hopefully) a little more thoughtful and a little less food-driven in my approach to gratitude. And looking back, I think that my initial confusion about what to say was more telling than I thought. I was trying desperately to search for some thing to be thankful for. I didn't realize—and often still don't—that my thankfulness, my real thanksgiving, was rooted in the extravagant grace, beauty, truth, hope, peace, and love of God.

"The whole world sparks and flames"

In her book Pilgrim at Tinker Creek, author Annie Dillard records nature observations with the pen of a poet, finding meaning in the most mundane-seeming settings. She notes both the beauty and the brutality of creation, and near the beginning of the book, offers this:

If the landscape reveals one certainty, it is that the extravagant gesture is the very stuff of creation. After the one extravagant gesture of creation in the first place, the universe has continued to deal exclusively in extravagances, flinging intricacies and colossi down aeons of emptiness, heaping profusions on profligacies with ever-fresh vigor. The whole show has been on fire from the word go. I come down to the water to cool my eyes. But everywhere I look I see fire; that which isn't flint is tinder, and the whole world sparks and flames.

Think about that: creation as an "extravagant gesture." To borrow Dillard's phrase, the longer you're alive, the more opportunity you have to see extravagant gestures in your life. I take this phrase to mean sights, feelings, moments that are unnecessarily over-the-top that they somehow become infused with meaning, no matter how big or small the particular experience may be.

Those moments aren't restricted to nature, though nature certainly has plenty of examples. The creation account on its own in Genesis 1-2 is filled with God breathing meaning and wonder into the world and all its inhabitants. After all, humans are created in the image of God, which seems quite the extravagant gesture in itself!

But beyond that, think about some of the big people and moments in your life—your spouse, your parents, the birth of your child, the death of a loved one. Each of these, for good or bad, is imbued with meaning—each is an extravagant gesture.

Those types of gestures may also seem inconsequential to an outsider. A dinner with a friend, the kindness of a stranger, or eating some bread and cheap wine in the middle of a church service—each of these seems mundane, but each has the opportunity to be filled with meaning and purpose.

These types of moments signify there's something bigger going on than we can understand or grasp. Every human has events, sights, sounds, feelings, smells, tastes, and experiences that are bigger than we can explain. Even if we don't realize it in the moment, these seemingly isolated incidents or short periods of life can be filled with more meaning that we can possibly imagine.

Christians choose to believe that meaning comes from God. That our everyday, mundane instances are, in actuality, extravagant gestures because God has created us in his image and every part of creation worships him.

Give thanks

That realization is what helps Christians to "give thanks in all circumstances" (1 Thess. 5:18). Because there are so many things—both good and bad—that can only be called "extravagant gestures," and those are the things that compel us to be thankful. The good things that happen in life remind us of the promise of God, and we are called to be thankful. The bad things that happen in life remind us of the hope God has promised, and we are called to be thankful. We don't have to be spiritual masochists, pretending to enjoy the painful parts of life. Rather, Christians are thankful for the hope of a new creation where the tragedies of this life are wiped away like tears.

The Bible reminds us repeatedly to give thanks to God, "by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God" (Phil. 4:6). It very rarely mentions specific things we ought to be thankful for. Scripture talks about gifts from God (James 1:17's "every good and perfect gift") but doesn't often provide lists of the things we often feel obliged to give thanks for. We aren't given a nice cheat sheet that will make those awkward pre-Thanksgiving moments a little easier. Instead, Christians remember the extravagance of God, the meaning and love imbued in our lives and our experiences. These aren't limited to getting things we can count off on our fingers, or even to the good stuff that happened in the course of a given year.

That's the difference between a childhood notion of thanksgiving, which mostly thinks about the pious and "right" things to be thankful for, and the mature Christian's thanksgiving, which recognizes that things like freedom, family, and friends (to name just a few things worth being thankful for) are signifiers that point to the true reason we can be thankful: That a Creator has given us extravagant blessings that are filled with meaning beyond comprehension. Christians are exhorted to be thankful precisely because we are to know where our grace and our hope come from, and know that there is so much in this world God uses to reveal himself, we can't help but be thankful. We can offer thanksgiving because the events of our lives, great and small, good and bad, are given purpose with the extravagant love of a Father who will stop at nothing to show himself to his children.

Ryan E.C. Hamm is a writer living in Florida. You can follow him on Twitter @RyanECHamm or read more at

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